Friday, 17 May 2013

Changing fears

As your children grow and you let them develop themselves, your fears and worries change. When they are little it is all about making sure they don't fall when learning to walk or they don't try and eat all the cakes! Then they start school and your worry turns to if they will make friends or if they enjoy school. From here, I thought it would be a little bit more plain sailing. Until my eldest started secondary school. 

Secondary school is a new playground entirely! My girl is a lovely, polite child - yes I am bias but I have been told she is polite so I will take that. She is currently learning to deal with many many different types of girls. The arguments that happen, the way they are towards each other can only be summed up in one word - vile. My daughter gets upset so often after incidents at school but I know I cannot interfere and this is all character building so I support her, allow her to have a safe environment at home to discuss it and the space to work it through herself. I wish I could do more but I know it is something she has to learn. 

I do have one huge fear and it is if the arguments ever got physical. I really don't want that to happen. That can mess a person up for a very long time. 

I need to keep keeping an eye I think and take it one step at a time.